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Suffering & Renewal
Commentary by Peter Shepherd
Although we have only limited control over what happens to us, we can always choose how to respond. We hold our power when we accept responsibility for our thoughts, feelings and actions.
Sometimes it serves a person to complain... to obtain sympathy, for example, or to make another wrong. A function of weak, fearful ego.
To achieve our dreams we need to break out of our comfort zone and start to accept and work with the unfamiliar and the unknown.
Grief, sorrow, sickness and suffering are part of the means by which we learn the greatest lessons. If truth were to be found with ease, it would not be appreciated. When truth is only realized after great sorrow or suffering, more value is placed upon it by the one who is ready to receive. As Helen Keller also said, "Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired, and success achieved."
Suffering is the result of resistance, when how you feel things ought to be doesn't match how they really are. So much better to simply embrace people, things, feelings... as they are. Not to label things as good or bad, especially 'totally' or 'always.' We suffer least when we can accept reality just as it is, and not to resist seeing the truth. That's not to say do nothing to correct or improve things, but we benefit most when we open our heart in compassion and our mind in appreciation.
Here’s some further reading on this theme...
With identification there is no distance from which to view. Only by becoming the witness to our feelings can we adopt the responsible viewpoint, from which we can then release the emotion, to let it go when it no longer serves. Then you can change your mind - beliefs and decisions can be changed in an instant when you've released the emotional charge attached to them. This new understanding is well proven as the basis of successful modern psychological practice and therapy and applied in personal development. Continues...