Unfold Your Wings and Watch Life Take Off

Part 3 - Your Healing

Your Healing From Inability To Solve Problems

If we are to experience vibrant delight then we need to feel confident we can meet the problems life throws at us. All of us have problems to solve. Life would be boring and meaningless without problems to inspire and challenge us. Problems are to be embraced, not avoided. We gain a great deal of pleasure from solving our most pressing problems.

Unfortunately for many of us, problems are burdens to be borne rather than challenges to inspire. When faced with our problems it is easy to fall into the worry trap and become immobilized by fear. Worry and fear undermine our confidence in our ability to solve problems. We need to be able to approach our problems with the joy, abandon and playfulness of a group of children.

If we feel enslaved by our problems, then we need to create an escape plan. Fortunately help is at hand. Our problems will be solved when we are in touch with inner guidance. The inner mentor can help us solve any problem, no matter how large or intractable it may appear. Guidance comes from the source of creativity. Our task is to tune in to its child-like ever-present intuitions.

I remember about six years ago meeting up for coffee with my friend Mark. We were talking about our friendship and how much it meant to us. I was telling Mark about a social club I had joined in Belfast for single people. With a heavy heart I explained that had decided to leave the club because I was unable to make any friends there. Mark commented that Belfast needed a social club where people could make genuine friends in safety.

As I was walking home that winter night through the dimly lit, wet streets of Belfast, his comment reverberated within my mind. Once I arrived home I made a cup of tea and relaxed in my favourite armchair. As I relaxed I began to strongly sense there was a real need for a social club where people could have close intimate friendships. I knew I would find freedom and fulfilment in being a member of such a club. This feeling grew quite quickly and I became inspired.

I did not hesitate. I followed the feeling. Skipping upstairs to my office, I brought down a pen and a large wad of paper. Ideas were starting to flow. I scribbled joyfully. That night in the heat of my inspiration I created the idea for a social club with a difference. The club was to be for people interested in personal development. It was to have one event a week, each event chosen and organised by a member. By ringing an answer phone where the details of each month's events were to be announced, members would learn what was on offer. I even thought of a name - New Horizons.

That night I cycled over to Mark's house, put my proposal through his door and left. I heard nothing for six days. Then the phone rang. It was Mark. We discussed the proposal on the phone and he invited me round to talk about it in more detail. We worked together to improve the proposal one evening and then decided to hold a first meeting with our friends. A second meeting followed. Finally we held our first event, a launch party where everyone we knew who was interested in personal development was invited.

Today New Horizons has about 35 members and has been going for over six years. A committee elected by the membership runs the club. We have enjoyed fun weekends away, been drenched while horse riding, visited the theatre, lost our balance while ice-skating, walked in the mountains and enjoyed boat trips. In addition to our weekly social events we hold one event a month specifically on personal development. We have organised and run over 300 social events in our six-year history. One of these events was held in the Wellington Park Hotel and attended by 180 people. As a club member I have never had such an active social life and have made many close friends.

All this happened because I had a dream to create such a club in Belfast and trusted and followed that dream. The call is a feeling, a thought or a dream. I have learnt to trust the feelings, thoughts and dreams I receive from inner guidance.

I succeeded in that project because I visited the still lake where I could commune with the radiant inner swan. Fear, worry and the resulting stress separate us from our inner guidance and we become deaf to her youthful promptings. If we remain out of touch our problems can mount because they remain unsolved. We can find ourselves in a vicious circle of not coping.

	UNFOLDING YOUR WINGS
If you are finding it difficult to cope, try reversing this vicious circle of mounting stress and unsolved problems. See if you can turn your life into a virtuous circle of increased relaxation and solved problems. You can do this by learning to relax and by tuning to inner guidance. (See Your Calling Can Increase Creativity Many Thousand Fold and Your Calling Helps You Succeed At Work).

When we do this, inner guidance can easily provide answers to our problems. We then change from seeing problems as a threat to be feared, to seeing them as a challenge to be enjoyed.

Envoi

My problems are mounting.
I cannot cope.
Fear and worry begin to infect my mind.
Tension builds.

I am entering the circle of despair.
I need to act.
I need to have faith in my calling.

As I have faith, I relax.
As I relax,
I am filled with the creative promptings of the inner call,
And I am healed of my inability to solve problems.