Review of The Us Factor™ by Peter Shepherd

Is your marriage good but not great... not all that you had hoped? Would you like more understanding, respect and attention from your partner?

The good news is there is no reason why you can't improve the situation so that your dream relationship finally becomes a reality. You simply need to know what steps to take: what you can do that will really make a difference. For that, you need the help of a top expert, and not only that, but help presented clearly in practical steps so you know exactly what to do next.

In the course of running Trans4mind for over 12 years and before that as a psychotherapist, I have been exposed to most of the courses and programs that aim to help improve relationships. Some are good but I've never been as impressed as I am with The Us Factor™—a groundbreaking new DVD program by renowned therapist Dr. Joseph Melnick.

Falling in love is wonderful. But staying in love takes skill. No doubt you understand only too well how hard it can be to keep love fresh and alive in long-term relationships. Especially when you’re raising children, managing careers and struggling with life’s toughest challenges.

A satisfying relationship with another person requires good communication, mutual understanding and empathy. If there is a significant drop in one of these factors, e.g. we disagree and have an argument, then an upset ensues - we aren’t speaking to one another anymore. Even between people who care deeply for each other, communication sometimes becomes blocked in this way. We can’t put our feelings into words; our partner speaks but we do not hear. At its worst, we stare helplessly across an abyss of silence, or in frustration we hurl attacks that drive us further apart.

Dr. Melnick’s program The Us Factor™ comes to our rescue. This powerful DVD program is designed to give couples the skills they need to resolve conflict effectively and grow closer, all in the privacy of their own home. The program offers unique, practical ways for couples to manage differences about sex, money, parenting, work schedules, commitment, lack of communication and more. Even when the partners feel wound up, angry or hurt. He does this by looking forward...

Nicole & Peter

I've learned a lot myself and as a result, the relationship with my wife Nicole has never been better... respecting and even loving our differences, rather than trying to change each other. I really believe any couple would gain a great deal from this program, but especially those who do have a loving basis to their relationship but it just doesn't seem to get the sparks flying as they would hope.

Do you love your spouse... but wish you could be “in love” again? Are you growing apart, arguing, bickering and feeling resentful? Has sex become a “hurry up and do it” event…if you’re having sex at all?

You’re not alone. In my twenty-five years of marriage counseling, I’ve met hundreds of couples who couldn’t understand why it was so hard to keep love and passion alive. The thing they all had in common? No one taught them the skills they needed to be successful in marriage.

If you and your spouse have the same arguments over and over again about the same things, you’re not alone. Most couples do this, thinking that the next time, or the tenth time or the hundredth time, something will change. In The Us Factor™, I’ll show you how to stop those pointless arguments, and I’ll show you why it’s not what you’re arguing about but how you’re arguing that matters. Then I’ll show you how to make some amazingly simple changes that will help you to get through to each other without screaming, tears, anger, the silent treatment or seething resentment. You won’t believe how much easier it is than what you’re doing now.

Maybe you’ve tried counseling, or maybe it just wasn’t for you, and you don’t know what to do next. When you’re trying to fix the most important thing in your life—your marriage—you need tools you can use in the moment, right now. I designed The Us Factor™ to give you just that: skills you can use the day you receive the program to stop the arguing and start feeling the excitement of loving your spouse again. Here are just some of the techniques you’ll learn:

The Sexual Spark in the Kitchen
You know the reasons why your sex life isn’t what it used to be. Now find out how to make your sensual and sexual connection hotter and stronger than it ever was. Hint: You can do it in the kitchen, the hallway, on the back porch…anywhere.

Stop the Craziness
If you and your spouse have heated arguments that leave you both with hurt feelings and frustration, I’ll show you a new way to express your differences that doesn’t leave you angry and resentful. You’ll learn to disagree respectfully, productively…in a way that actually brings you closer together. 

How to Break Down a Brick Wall Without a Sledgehammer
Are you frustrated because your spouse won’t open up and talk? Do you feel like you’re doing everything in your power to satisfy your spouse and fix your relationship and you’re getting nowhere? Find out why it’s happening and the simple shift that can change everything for you.

The New Us
If you miss the freshness and fun you had when your relationship was new, I’ll show you how to bring newness into your relationship—no matter how long you’ve been together. Hint: You can start tonight. No exotic vacation required.

The Blame-Free Marriage
Do you always feel blamed for everything that’s wrong in the marriage? Do you find yourself blaming your spouse for the problems in your relationship? I’ll show you how to get your point across without the blame and finger pointing, so that your spouse will finally listen to you.

Why "I love you" doesn’t work
They can be the three most ineffective words in a relationship: "I love you." If you’ve told your spouse over and over again that you love them, and you get nothing back, there’s a reason. Find out how to tell your spouse you love them in a way that’ll ignite their passion.

The Positive Stance
A new way to look at your spouse that will get you less frustration and more love, respect and appreciation.

Getting Out of the Rut
Routines, resentment and lack of communication can leave you feeling lonely in your marriage. Find out how to break out of the rut together and bring the excitement and electricity back to your relationship.

The "Ouchless" Talk
Are you uncomfortable talking with your spouse because you don’t want to start a fight or you’re afraid they’ll get defensive? Learn how to talk about serious subjects with your partner in a way that’s non-threatening, where no one "gets hurt."

Take advantage of the 30 Day Risk-Free Trial, with a Free Bonus CD - "The Butterfly Secret: Instant Sexuality for Couples" - free with your order, just for trying The Us Factor program...

Dr. Joseph Melnick is a licensed psychologist. He is a couples and family therapist, organizational consultant and author of numerous articles and book chapters on intimacy, ethics and organizational dynamics.

Dr. Melnick has worked with couples in his private practice for over twenty years. He holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the University of Cincinnati. Currently, he is Co-Chair of the Cape Cod Training Program and a board member of the Gestalt International Study Center. He is Editor-in-Chief of Gestalt Review, a publication that concentrates on the Gestalt approach to clinical, family, group and organizational topics.

Dr. Melnick has been married to his wife, Gloria, for 40 years.