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QUESTIONNAIRE - Page 23

The method of filling in the questions and of scoring is explained in the first page of the Questionnaire, Activity.

D - SEXUALITY

Trait 2 - SEXUAL SATISFACTION

  • All in all I am very satisfied with my sex life.
    Yes* | Maybe | No || Score:

  • I have been deprived sexually.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • I am sexually rather unattractive.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • Sexual feelings are unpleasant to me.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • Something is lacking in my sex life.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • My love life has been disappointing.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • I consciously try to keep sexual thoughts out of my mind.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • I have felt guilty after sexual experiences.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • At times I have been afraid of myself for what I might do sexually.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • I have conflicts about my sexual feelings towards someone of my own sex.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • I have strong sexual feelings but when I get the chance I can't seem to express myself.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • My parents influence has inhibited me sexually.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • Thoughts about sex disturb me more than they should.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • My conscience bothers me too much.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • I feel nervous with the opposite sex.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • I feel at ease with people of the opposite sex.
    Yes* | Maybe | No || Score:

  • I don't like to be kissed.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • I feel more comfortable when I am with people of my own sex.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • I enjoy petting.
    Yes* | Maybe | No || Score:

  • I worry a lot about sex.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • I had some bad sexual experiences when I was young.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • There are some things I do only to please my partner.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • I don't always know for sure when I have had an orgasm.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • My partner satisfies all my physical needs.
    Yes* | Maybe | No || Score:

  • I enjoy pre-coital love play.
    Yes* | Maybe | No || Score:

  • I find it easy to tell my partner what I like or don't like about our love-making.
    Yes* | Maybe | No || Score:

  • No one has ever been able to satisfy me sexually.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • I feel less sexually competent than my friends.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • I am afraid of sexual relationships.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • I wish that my partner would be more forthcoming sexually.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • I can't stand people touching me.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • I find "straight sex" unsatisfactory.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • The need for birth control upsets my love-making because everything becomes so pre-planned and cold-blooded.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • I or my partner frequently suffer from premature ejaculation.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

  • I or my partner rarely reach orgasm during intercourse.
    Yes | Maybe | No* || Score:

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ANALYSIS

High scores indicate considerable fulfillment which is naturally for most people a very desirable state of affairs.

Those with low scores are likely to be dissatisfied with their sex lives and probably are quite unhappy about this, since the sex drive is such a basic part of our make-up. Sexual inhibitions can cause a real sense of imbalance or dysfunction in one's life and behavior, such as sexual shyness, prudishness and disgust. Low scorers tend to feel nervous with the opposite sex, embarrassed when taking about sex and sometimes afraid of sexual relationships altogether, e.g. in case they are inadequate or in case the partner behaves without empathy or in a way they disaprove of. A compulsion (a normal urge that becomes amplified when it is resisted) that cannot be normally satisfied, e.g. due to shyness or the partner's refusal, may lead to exhibitionism, voyeurism, or even enforced sex on unwilling participants.

Very often the cause is misinformation about the nature and value of sex (e.g. from parents, peers, media or religion) or bad experiences with others who were themselves neurotic or psychotic in this area. Another primary reason is a failure in communication between the partners.

A person's satisfaction with their sex life may be quite independent of his or her sexual appetite. Some couples may be quite fulfilled sexually without frequent active sex; this is more likely to be the case with older people.

How do you compare?

The norm on this trait is between 21-22 points (statistical approximation). This may be represented on the following scale:

Satisfaction 35 34 33 32 31 30 29 28 27 26 25 24 23 22 || 21 20 19 18 17 16 15 14 13 12 11 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 Dissatisfaction

Move on to the next Trait: SEXUAL PERMISSIVENESS.

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