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|I believe there is an important factor in change work. This is honesty, or
acknowledging the existing situation.
Many self help techniques ignore this and by doing so they create a conflict or battle.
Let's give a simple example. Ken suddenly thinks:
'God I feel really terrible!'
(He's got a slight attack of flu) Now it is no good denying this thought. So he acknowledges it:
I feel really terrible.
And qualifies it:
at this precise moment in this precise space. (Here and now).
So he's got flue, suddenly feels so bad he can't complete his tasks, and thinks a negative thought and acknowledges it fully, with full agreement. But qualifies it to be super-accurate and super-honest.
This may be enough. By fully acknowledging the situation the problem may disappear.
But I could feel a lot better in the future.
This is a true statement. No one knows the future. Even highly incredible events can occur. We can never be absolutely sure ....
I could feel better in a few hours, minutes, or even seconds .. I could even feel a bit better now. (This is a new now, of course)
Now it is possible to use positive true suggestions to enhance well being:
I may notice feeling better and much more energetic and happy ...
By now he's bored with all this stuff, forgets about the flu and gets on with his tasks.
Are you feeling better Ken?
What do you mean?
You said you had flue
Oh Yes! Er, I suppose it went away. I forgot about it.
The example involves illness, but is perhaps more relevant to psychological states. The principle is the same:
Acknowledge the truth of the situation
Qualify it to make it super-accurate (here and now)
Use true suggestions. Be super-honest!
Sometimes people use positive thinking to force themselves to believe something they 'know' is false. Not surprisingly, this does not work very well!
So be honest for a change!
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