Going beyond fear and anxiety

Introduction

We may fear losing our jobs and the resulting drop in living standards. We may fear failure for the disapproval it might bring. We may fear having nothing to do because we might get bored. We may fear telling the truth because others may not like us for it. We fear the unknown for the dangers it may bring. We fear uncertainty, not knowing whether or not we will find what we are after. Here lies a sad irony. We want to be happy and at peace with ourselves. Yet the very nature of fear makes us anxious in the present and not at peace.

Many of our fears are not so strong that we would label them as fears. They may be just concerns, little niggles we have about how things may turn out. They may not even be conscious concerns - in many cases they surface only in our dreams, in conversation with a friend, or after a couple of drinks. Nevertheless they fill our minds with thoughts.

This is the voice within our heads that comments, often critically, on everything we do. It thinks, 'I did that well, people will approve of me,' or 'If only I had said it differently she would not have got upset.' It is the voice that speculates on the future, 'Should I make that telephone call... what if...?' It wonders what other people are thinking and how they will react. It is the voice of fear, the voice of the Ego-mind - the part of us that believes that only through what happens to us in the world around can we be at peace within. But filling our minds with worry over what people might or might not think, is not the most constructive use we can make of our imagination.

This internal dialogue keeps us trapped in time - it dwells on the past or the future. As long as our attention is in the past or future, we are not experiencing things as they are, we are seeing them through the judgments of the past and our fears for the future. At times we can be so caught up in our self-talk that we do not even notice the present. We ignore what is going on around us, do not really hear what people are saying, do not appreciate how we really feel. So engrossed are we in our concerns that we never seem to pause to let things be. We have lost the present moment - lost the NOW.

Please check out the links to relevant articles, courses, books and websites below. You will be empowered to go beyond fear and anxiety in your own time and in your own way...

Recommended trans4mind resources

• Conquer Anxiety Success Program
  This is a comprehensive anxiety reduction program that is unique in the field with its show-me approach and the way it is set up to meet the specialized learning needs of anxiety sufferers to maximize results. It's comprehensive, a step by step toolkit that doesn't just talk, it shows you what to do, step by step, so that you can make progress even if you feel like you've tried it all and you don't where else to turn. You learn how to stop the pain of your symptoms, the obsessive thoughts that keep you prisoner, and help you face the situations you fear successfully.

  The link above takes you to the free online mini-course by Deanne Repich on our site. If you find it helpful, I encourage you to continue with the in-depth program, with Deanne's support. Also on that home page are some articles by Deanne and links to much more information about anxiety.

• Emotional Intelligence
  Intelligence of the heart is lacking in our culture, so that all too often, instead of acting with integrated reason and feelings, we react with the emotional maturity of spoilt children. Instead of being recognized and understood consciously, emotions are suppressed or resisted, giving them subconscious power. They then drive our behavior, and we use our rational intelligence to justify such behavior. This section of the trans4mind site will help you to understand and release emotions.

• Hypnosis Downloads
  These target specific anxieties, fears and phobias, with reasonably priced audio downloads that are intelligent, helpful and effective.

• Quick Coach: Going beyond fear and anxiety
  Here is a wide selection of relevant and insightful articles from the Counterpoint library on this topic. In particular, I recommend you read Living in Fear by Dr. Tim Ong, which provides a wide overview, taken from his book, 'From Fear to Love,' described below.

Recommended books on this subject

• From Fear to Love: A Spiritual Journey by Dr. Tim Ong
  At each junction there are two ways we can go in life: the way of Love and its components - empathy, trust, certainty, confidence, understanding. Or, the way of Fear and its components - lies, refusal to understand, harmful acts, withheld communication. This corresponds to those archetypes: forces of the light and forces of the dark.

  Much of our upbringing is dominated by the basic survival needs and the fear of their lack. But to achieve our highest need, for self-realization, we need to align ourselves toward the light. Tim Ong's book is a wonderful guide, both to understanding our situation and to transcending it, so that we can truly live our lives in the light of Love.

• Your Emotional Power by Steve Mensing
  This book is based on the famous Emoclear techniques created by Steve Mensing. Emoclear comes from the words "clear emotions." The simple and powerful processes for clearing unwanted emotions are based on mindfulness and ageless integration techniques.

  I personally endorse this method, which closely corresponds in it's underlying theory to my own courses and writing. Emoclear works well in the hands of a therapist but also on one's own: an emotionally stable person could apply these processes, without a practitioner, and they will serve to integrate body and mind in a way that provides a degree of clarity and integrity that is far beyond the normal. This book provides the map and the compass.

  You can download a free 30 page PDF containing the Introduction and first Chapter; this is substantial and valuable information, and the full book is a complete program for life transformation.

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• Welcome to The Work
  Byron Katie helps one Israeli woman - who has experienced recent war in Israel as people were killing, bombing, and being bombed - look anew at her belief, "I'm afraid of war." The Work gets us through to see reality, to the end of the only war you can successfully Work with, the war within you.

• Emotional Freedom Technique
  Gary Craig, Founder of Emotional Freedom Technique, presents the principles of his incredible healing method. More information here.

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