My problem is that I have no idea who I am. I feel lost and desperately need guidance.
I am an 18-year-old male, I just graduated, I live at home with my family at the moment and am going to enroll in college classes in the fall. I am the youngest of 4 children and the only boy. Two of my older sisters live at home as well. My parents have been separated since I was one and my mother has raised me. I've never really had one home as we moved around a lot throughout my life.Reply by Coach Doris Jeanette
Your problem is a universal human problem. No matter what culture children grow up in, they learn what they "should do" and "should not do." As an adult they do not take the time or spent the energy to discover what they really do want to do and what they do not want to do. Many do not even ask the questions you are asking.
To the reader:
Warwick Begg comments, June 2010:
Young Man... I can remember at 18 saying to relatives and anybody who showed interest in me that I was "waiting for my personality to consolidate itself." It was a painfully insecure and lonely time. Not everyone will have quite this sensitivity, and while giving your life an added and difficult challenge, the very sensitivity which highlights uncertainty and fear in your early years will be a blessed tool towards perceiving and empathising with the true needs of your fellow humans in later years. This is a rich gift.
I understand this world to be a school, a training ground for achieving depth and wisdom (which feel excellent). Each spark of Universal Intelligence, each spirit, enters a physical body much as you would take on a persona in a computer game (WOW, etc.- great!). We cannot possibly expect to know everything from the start. The object is to PLAY the game, to hone our skills, gain insight into the parameters, and see what happens! Now, also, I understand that we plan a basic itinerary of our lives (destiny) so as to maximize gain from said life. No mistakes, just useful experience.
You may TRUST your life path, to teach you the best stuff as hard as you can go. As Doris said, listen to your heart (intuitive, deeper intelligence). The mind is a useful tool, but left alone in a quiet space will buzz us into knots unless we use up its energy out in the world, and perhaps also learn to kick it into neutral through meditation - checkout fabulous Einstein quote at top of this June 23rd newsletter: "The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and have forgotten the gift."
Get outta da house, do some fun stuff however childish or wacky, try to seek out like-minded people (e.g. join a UFO club!), expect help from the Universe and you will find that the resulting crazy adventures will start to give you a feeling of who you are, by doing, rather than thinking. "You definitely ain't alone, kid," as alien as you may feel.
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