Inner Guidance Training
How to Use Inner Guidance
to Make Genuine Friends
Introduction
We can gauge our true wealth by the number of genuine friends we
have in our life. In the company of a real friend, our joys are
doubled and our sorrows are halved. If you do not have any genuine
friends then you need to ask why this is the case. Do you find it
difficult to share your inner world, your dreams, fears, doubts,
insecurities, joys, passions and loves with another. If we shy away
from sharing ourselves with others then we can feel lonely and isolated.
For Example
Cecil had found his companionship through the company of his wife
Anne for thirty-five years. Then when his wife was having a routine
examination the doctor diagnosed inoperable cancer. In a few months
Anne was dead. Cecil was devastated and stayed at home on his own
for long periods to grieve. Initially Anne's friends called to comfort
Cecil, however he talked very little about his troubles and did
not ask any of the visitors about their own lives. Slowly the number
of visitors reduced to a trickle and Cecil was left alone.
An Exercise in Using Inner Guidance to Make Genuine Friends
As a first step try and develop existing friendships. Do not wait
for others to make the first move. If there is something you feel
drawn to say, then say it at an appropriate time and in an appropriate
way. Maybe there is some disagreement between you and your friend.
Discuss it. Perhaps you are holding bitterness and resentment -
if it feels right open up a conversation about this. Maybe you never
shared how you felt. Don't be afraid to share your dreams and passions
as well. Leave time and space for your friend to share their hurts,
passions and dreams, but in their own time and in their own way.
If you feel inclined don't be afraid to offer counselling, healing
and support to your friend as well as being open to the possibility
of receiving counselling, healing and support from them. To deepen
friendships we need to give more and share more. Allow the part
of you that wants to know and be known to surface. If your existing
friends find this new approach uncomfortable, give them time to
get used to the new you, and be open to new friendships with people
who want to share more deeply. Personal growth workshops, talks
and events are good places to meet new people who are open to genuine
friendships.
Also See:
Your potential can be crazy to family and friends (but sane to genuine friends) - Unfold Your Wings p.116-118
Your potential reveals genuine friends - Unfold Your Wings p.132-138
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