How to Make Affirmations Work
Come the New Year, we frequently resolve to change our behavior for the better, to make a new start. We make affirmations, causative intentions. Here are some interesting points about the limitations and potential power of affirmations:
Affirmations always work. Yes, whatever you positively think or visualise, you will attain and have or be or do. For example: 'I don't want to be poor.'
Assumption: 'I am poor.' Focus: 'Poverty'. Result: Thinking about poverty, and being in the identity of a poor person. So the affirmation worked, but not in the way you intended.
Maybe this should be re-phrased in the positive? For example: 'I want to be rich.'
Assumption: 'I am not rich.' Who wants what they already have? Want implies not having. Focus: Poverty. Result: Not being rich.
So we have learnt it is better to phrase in the present, not future. Don't use want and similar words. Perhaps this makes a better affirmation: 'I am rich'?
If you are rich, then this does not work because if you are rich then of course you've already attained being rich. If you aren't rich, it is a lie. Therefore, it doesn't work.
Hmmm. There's got to be a better way...
How about: 'Suppose I am rich'? Suppose you have everything that being rich means to you. Imagine that this is happening. See yourself in that situation. Then slip into that image of yourself and see and hear and feel what it is experiencing and hear yourself thinking and saying, 'I am rich.'
It works now, doesn't it? It is true, it does not imply or state an undesirable state and it is in the present.
So now you are rich, aren't you? At least in your imagination, but you have learnt what it is like to be in that wealthy identity and that is a resource you can apply. You've changed your frame of mind and your view of the world has altered for the better. When you have a positive vision that is real to you and genuinely something that you want and identify with, then creative energies naturally flow towards that vision. This is powerful stuff!
Using this as an analogy, when we are affirming something, even when we do so focussing on ability and being honest, we are making many other affirmations at the same time without being aware of them. Some of these affirmations might be like creating a resistant wall and at the same time a strong force to knock it down. We create a problem and try to create a strong enough force to overcome that problem! We make an affirmation and we make barriers to that affirmation. If we have never had or been the result of the affirmation, then we might have been creating the opposing force for a long time.
This opposing force is probably something which we thought in the past was a means to keep us safe, or otherwise make our lives better. It might even be a simple negative thought which we decided at a time of stress and keep thinking unconsciously. Such counter-intentions could be ideas that our parents or our culture bombarded us with as a child and then these became habitual and out of our awareness.
Dealing with hidden affirmations
Regarding the following questions, it is important that you perceive the positive intention (affirmation) as an outflowing creation that meets barriers (hidden affirmations), rather than as something that is resisting an incoming opposing force.
Q1. What is connected with your affirmation that you are opposing?
For each answer from question 1:
Q2. Why do you oppose or fight against that?
Why not try this out next time you affirm an intention?
One Man's Affirmation is Another Man's Denial
By Thomas Lomax, Jr.
When I began my quest for abundance by using the power of my mind, I came across many different types of affirmations. One of them was put together by motivational speaker Anthony Robbins. He claims the following affirmation, which he called an incantation, helped him to become a millionaire in less than a year:
"God's wealth is circulating in my life. His wealth flows to me in avalanches of abundance. All my needs, desires and goals are met instantaneously. For, I am One with God, and God is everything."What a great affirmation, huh? So, I immediately began to repeat it... last thing at night, first thing in the morning, and, all throughout the day. I mean, it worked for him, right? But, I noticed that, within myself, something wasn't quite right.
Also, my research had taught me that you should begin to see some kind of indication that an affirmation is working within 7-10 days. If nothing's happening, it could be that you've chosen the wrong affirmation. That seemed to be what my intuition was telling me was true here. So, I decided to break it down and see what it was I was really saying.
First, here's what Tony Robbins probably heard in his subconscious:
"The Infinite Intelligence behind all manifestation is flowing Its abundance into all areas of my life. This abundance is flowing to me greatly. Whatever I need or desire is already mine to claim because Infinite Intelligence operates outside of time and in the Universal Now. And, I, Tony, am a part of this Intelligence because It is All There Is."Wow! That's really powerful, isn't it? No wonder he got rich pretty quick. However, when I said this same affirmation, here's what my subconscious heard:
"The One who will judge my soul for all eternity has been kind enough to bless me daily. His wealth, which is his not mine, is visible all around me. My needs are mostly met, but certainly not all my selfish desires. Because, I am a sinner and, in truth, separated from God."That's a very different affirmation, isn't it? Is it any wonder I didn't feel like riches were coming my way after saying that? So, what I learned was, when you say an affirmation, you have 2 options if you want to be successful with it:
So, have patience and practice wording your affirmations in ways that will bring you want you want, and, at the same time, not raise any argument from your ever vigilant subconscious mind.
Copyright © 2008 Thomas Lomax, Jr.
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