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Accomplishing Sexual Greatness

By Alina Ruigrok -

Sexual Intimacy is an experience that blows us all away at first. As a relationship proceeds however, the passionate fire tends to fade and burn out. If you learn to adapt to the new stages in your relationships, you can keep your passion fire burning and experience a sexual greatness you never thought you could accomplish!

The reason sex becomes less mysterious is because it eventually enters a new stage of comfort and familiarity. You and your partner have been together for a certain amount of time and have had the opportunity to explore each other's bodies over and over again. Not only that, but the two of you continue to follow the same sexual routines, because you already know what certain things satisfies the two of you and therefore you feel safe and fear from trying anything new.

Do not, nevertheless, let new stages scare or have you give up on having a hot and passionate sex life with your lover. In fact, finding that comfort and familiarity in your relationship will help open the doors to new discoveries and experiences. Entering the comfort and familiar stage is wonderful for the reason that it makes you feel...well..comfortable! You have been with your partner long enough to feel safe and comfortable, which means your relationship is open enough to explore new areas and try new things, using the things you already know about each other's sexuality and desires. Using familiarity to your relationship's advantage will only bring you new and exciting results.

If you feel like trying something new or wish to explore new areas in the bedroom, you can either talk to your partner about it or take a chance and just try it the next time you are intimate! Talking about sex with your partner does mean that there is trouble in paradise. Many couples fear that if they bring up the sex, it will send out the message that their partner is not good enough and will therefore upset their lover and start a fight. Just be honest about it, combining it with good timing and the right choice of words, of course. Simply tell him or her that you feel close to them and wish to take your intimacy to the next level of new discoveries and even more closeness.

Together, you and your partner can come up with new ideas and suggestions of how you can turn the bedroom into a new destination, taking you to mysterious and sexy places. If you are thinking about throwing in some new ideas without discussing it with your partner the next time you perform sexual activity, it would be advisable to look over your ideas first. If your new ideas seem too unfamiliar and out of character of your usual routine, then perhaps it would be best to talk to you lover about it first. You do not want to scare or shock your partner with something so unexpected and unknown. It could be something they do not believe belongs in sexual activity, or simply makes them too uncomfortable.

Re-Discovering each other is another terrific way to heat things up again. The two of you have seen each other's bodies so many times; that you probably stopped observing it altogether and just went straight for the deed and mission to orgasm. It is important to remember that sex in humans has everything to do with feeding the minds fantasy. Sex is a very visual activity; so take the time to re-discover your partner's body, every curve and area that puts together the creature you desire so much. Oh yes, and take your time! Over time in a relationship, people tend to rush and hurry more during sex as if it is a chore. Making love is supposed to be a fun and patient experience. So take the time to observe your lover's body, kissing every area patiently, expressing the fantasy your mind has for your partner, making it come true.

Paying attention plays a big part in sexual greatness as well. If you are taking it slowly as you should, you will able to notice the expressions your partner is making, which can be a big turn on for you and boost your sexual confidence, motivating you to go on and try new and more things to keep things running smoothly and hot. Keep in mind that you should pay attention to yourself as well. If you wish for an area to be pursued, feel free to request it from your partner. After all, your partner will do his or her best, but is not a mind reader1

Showing your appreciation and care for each other will leave things healthy in the bedroom, making you both look forward to the next time, with the wish to discover each other all over again. Do not just get up and go about your day after you are done. Take the time to let your partner know how wonderful the experience was and how great it made you feel, as well as asking how they feel about it too. Talking about it will bring the two of you closer together, which will result in the both of you craving more and more intimacy.

In order to do all of this though, you must make the time! Too many people claim that they wish to improve their sexual life, but just do not have the time. If heating things back up in your sex life is truly important to you and your partner, then you both will have to make the time to dedicate to your sexual needs and desires. Set up a time when you can talk about it and patiently have a love making session. As time goes by and you get used to your new sexual lifestyle, you will be able to be spontaneous as well. Spontaneity is just as important because it makes things more exciting and comes in handy when you are having the busiest of schedules!

When you and your lover work as a team and put in the efforts needed and wanted to your sexual relationship, you will be able to re-explore all the things you love about each other, as well as finding out things you never knew could make the two of you so wild. Just keep an open mind, be honest about how you are feeling and make the time to approach the bedroom with care, patience and willingness. In time, you will, as a couple, find your secret to making your sex life last in the hottest and sexiest way you could only dream about before.

Alina Ruigrok is an independent relationship expert for helping those in need of dating, love, relationship, marital, sexual and other personal advice through e-sessions.

Alina Ruigrok is an independent relationship expert for helping those in need of dating, love, relationship, marital, sexual and other personal advice through e-sessions.


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