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What to Do When She's Cold On the Phone

By Ross Jeffries

What to Do When She's Cold On the Phone

Recently, I received the following email from a member of the

on-line Speed Seduction discussion group.(Yes, we actually offer

round the clock, 24 hour encouragement, advice on support with

and for thousands of Home Study course owners around the world!

How's that for backing up our clients and our products?)

Anyway, he asks about an important issue: what happens when a

woman who was initially warm to you, suddenly turns cold on that

first follow up phone call? Many guys blow this "test" and wind

up walking away from some potentially awesome women and fun,

fulfilling relationships. So let's hear what he has to say:

"Hey All,

After learning SS for four months, I have gotten some pretty

exciting results; specifically people react to me in a completely

different way. I am able to get rapport and talk to women easily.

Also, when I do two brothers, the ideal relationship (put it in

my three fingers and eat it) and the energy demo, I generate

attraction. I have gotten good at this and at generating big

interest as well.

I met a girl at the coffee shop. After meeting her and talking

for a long time (like an hour) and running a bunch of patterns,

two brothers, energy demo, self pointing, massaging the back of

her neck, etc. I got her really going. She was having fun, she

like me, rapport etc. She wanted to give me her number and I get


But when I called her back two days later she was not interested

in meeting. When I call her, what is the best way to take her

back to our last meeting? What are the best things to say to make

her go back to those states? What are the best things to do

during our first meeting to make sure that she will want to meet

up with me in the next few days? What is the best message I can

leave to make her call me back and want to meet? (This assumes we

can't just change venue. Of course changing the venue instead of

getting her number is better.)



Good question, G.

Sometimes, people change their minds. It can be for ANY reason.

You can do EVERYTHING perfect and still you will not get the

girl; you will get good practice and a chance to polish your


I also can't tell whether you got her on the phone or left a

message, so PLEASE clarify and maybe I can help further.

Generally, if women are polite but seem disinterested, my

response is, "Hey, no problem, no strings. I just thought you


but best to you, you have a good one."

No bitterness. No fear. No rancor. Just, ok, guess you just

didn't get it or maybe you are just having a bad day.

Now, it is a DIFFERENT story if she is rude, and ice cold when I

call. I've had THAT happen too, and it can be a shock when it is

such a turn around from the first responses she had at the first

meeting. Then my response is: "Wow...what a rude, cold way to

have to PRETEND to be. Have a good day".

Then hang up. If she's just being defensive or insecure you've

given her a chance to apologize and come round. Notice the word

"pretend" which implies you think she's not really this way, but

capable of better.

Understand, some women are super-moody, some have an initial

interest, but their fears of intimacy or their frozen nature just

takes over. Some just think they are entitled to treat the world

like crap. If she calls you back with anything other than an

apologetic tone, hang up on her and write her off. Trust me; you

don't need the trouble or bother. Move on with the gift of your

skills and find someone more fun, more pleasure, less bother.

Make sense?

For you at home, reading this, understand that an important, but

often neglected part of learning success with women is SCREENING.

Learning to look for what you want and also what you will not put

up with, and then sticking to you guns.

I will put up with women being ordinary humans, and, like all of

us, having bad moods and bad days. That's just being wise and

using your compassion.

I will NOT put up with women who are perpetually frozen,

emotionally cold, think they are God's gift to men, have wild and

frequent mood swings, etc.

Remember as you move up the learning curve with Speed Seduction",

YOU HAVE A GREAT GIFT TO OFFER. Don't give it or continue to

offer it to those who rip off the wrapping only to use it for

toilet paper.

Peace and piece,

Ross Jeffries

P.S. To enjoy incredible seduction mastery, learn just what you

need to, in order to have power, choice AND incredible

self-respect with women, check out your Speed Seduction Home

Study course right now. Remember you get unprecedented 24 hour

customer support, advice and encouragement at the online

discussion group when you BECOME A HOME STUDY COURSE OWNER TODAY.

Just click here:

P.P.S. Already have a HSC and want a recommendation for a hot

follow up product? Check out the amazing, hot off the press,

Advanced Irresistible Arousal DVD:

Special note: this newsletter, and all contents, are copyright

2005, Ross Jeffries. You may reproduce, post and otherwise share

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