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Drama: How It Zaps Creativity and Success

By Catherine Franz

Drama occurs all around us. We don't think of ourselves as

a drama queen or king. "isn't that a movie?" isn't that a

neighbor, co-worker, friend, or in-law? For artists, drama

contributes to their creative production. There is a darker

side. One we don't want to admit to. At least not easily.

We add drama in order to make life or situations more

interesting. Artists like to do this when their creativity

is blocked. Drama adds fizz to imagination. We also create

drama when we're bored or need to shelter our feelings.

Drama, thought of as a serious narrative for fiction, can

also be serious emotional muck that zaps both creativity and

success. Like quicksand, we don't know you're in it until

you can't move your legs.

A friend, let's name her Jane, phones and pulls you in with

her BMW (bitch, moan and whine). She curls your ear about

life not going according to her plan. You have just become

stuck in her drama. You pat your foot and think about what

else you could be doing. The critic justifies staying with:

"She's your friend. She listens to your BMW." Afterwards,

your energy sags.

Drama is easier to see in other people, it is harder to see

the muck we create for ourselves. Here is a process that

will assist your awareness and propel you forward:

Step 1: Recognize when the drama is appearing or when it

did appear. Do you drag yourself out of bed? That's drama.

Do you moan and groan about something? That's drama. Our

inner critic has a natural ability to ignite drama when you

don't want to do something. Did you give an excuse for

something? That's drama. We're you late because you

weren't sure you wanted to go? Drama! Excessive emotion is


Step 2: Acknowledge the event as unnecessary. When you

acknowledge it as unnecessary and you are in a dramatic

moment, the shift begins.

Step 3: Identify what part, or whole, is "just" your part?

Weed out the other players. See only your part. Decide:

Are you going to continue or change it?

Step 4: Begin the transformation. Write or carefully think

through what occurred. If you see the drama unfolding

before you, and it includes other players, stop, don't

continue just to save face. Once you decide to transform

it, declare it out loud three times.

Let me share with you one of my changing events...

My fought my own thoughts as I moved down the isles. "Yes, I

need these? No, I don't really need this?" Justifying

with the great price. I stared at items without seeing as

my thoughts fought. "Should I or shouldn't I." At the

checkout counter, I couldn't let go of the items so the

cashier could price and bag them. Slowly I let go.

When it came time to pay, I stopped, looked at her, and

explained that I changed my mind. I apologized, slightly

embarrassed. Not so surprised but delighted from my

explanation, she said thank you, she learned something to.

I said, "Me too."

I sat on the mall bench in disbelief for quite some time.

It was one of those memorable moments. One I still remember

very clearly today. It took time to process what occurred

but I did see that my spending process changed

significantly. It was one of my shifts in seeing my drama.

Step 5: Make a conscious choice to let it go.

Step 6: Take action. Talk with someone about it -- a

friend, clergy, or coach. Just do it. If you prefer to

write your way through the process, do it. Process it

lovingly. For when you see the drama as if it's a

television soap opera "an out of body view" this particular

drama behavior ends.

Step 7: Repeat this phrase three times: "And this has

passed. I now move forward in joy and success."

Enjoy the less dramatic you and watch your new success


Your Assignment, If You Choose To Take This On

Make a list, 1-10. Close your eyes and revisit the last 24

hours. See where the drama occurred? What was your

contribution? Was the drama getting the kids to go to bed?

Did you procrastinate on something and then create drama to

get you started? Write down even the smallest memory. Even

the appearances you're not sure of. Choose one. Start with

Step 1.

(c) Copyright 2005, Catherine Franz. All rights reserved.

About The Author

Catherine Franz, is a syndicated marketing columnist, radio host, International speaker, and master business coach. Also available in audio.


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