Is Social Anxiety Holding You Back?
By Ron Goodwsen - Imagine Me Media
Another year, another New Years resolution... if only this time it could be different?
Do you feel overwhelmed by both your own and others expectations for the festive period? Does the forthcoming prospect of social gatherings make you feel uncomfortable?
If you could wave a magic wand for a new years wish and change something about yourself what would it be?
Deep down you may wish to go to parties and other social events. You may feel very lonely, but you probably never go anywhere because you're very nervous about meeting new people. New situations together with the thought of meeting new people, scares you and new groups and crowds only make things worse for you. Will you know what to say? Will you be tongue-tied? Will they stare at you and make you feel even more insignificant? Will they reject you outright? Even if they seem nice, they're sure to notice your frozen look and your inability to fully relax. They'll sense your discomfort and they won't like you, there's just no way to win. "I'm always going to feel like this," you think. So you'd rather spend the time alone, at home, watching television again. You feel comfortable at home. In fact, home is the only place you do feel completely comfortable.
You know that these feelings are irrational and you may feel frustrated that you are unable to conquer them. If all this seems familiar and is making sense, then all it does is prove that intelligence doesn't make it easier to stop the feelings or make them better, in fact you probably feel worse because you realize that they're irrational.
Making this situation more difficult, is that social anxiety does not come and go like some other physical or psychological problems. If you have social anxiety one day, you have it every day for the rest of your life.
You may feel isolated and alone and you may think that you are the only one in the whole world who has these terrible symptoms, but you are not alone and here is the good news,... there is a better life for all people with social anxiety.
How we think and feel about ourselves is often the difference between happiness and success, or frustration and failure, we are all products of our own thinking, so every thought we think has an impact on us. We respond to our negative thoughts and to our positive thoughts.
No matter how much conscious effort you put into changing your habits, your subconscious mind will flood your body with negative messages that have been ingrained for years. If you have a history of failing to live up to your own expectations, your memories are loaded with negative programming and this is what you need to change.
Success and real lasting changes in your life, will only come from changing the way you think. You can change the way you think by using home-based, self-help hypnotherapy DVD's. Many people trying to make changes in their lives, struggle to maintain willpower. They feel that they need help and are often too embarrassed to admit to anyone that they have a problem. Now, many sufferers of low motivation and low confidence and self-esteem, are benefiting from hypnotherapy treatment, which can literally change peoples lives for the better.
Your life will improve if you begin to believe in yourself and your abilities. You will feel respected, giving you that extra boost to increase motivation and your enthusiasm will increase noticeably. Some people say it feels like magic because it is so easy to make powerful changes. Hypnotherapy simply allows you to access the resources you already have in your subconscious mind.
Desire to make changes is good. Taking action to start something is even better. When a person with social anxiety finally gets up the nerve to seek help, the chances that they can find it are very, very slim, but help is there for people who don't know where to start and are not afraid to ask for it.
Let's assume that you've decided right now, to start making the changes that you want. If you have tried before and failed, you need a support structure put into place as quickly as possible, to help you to maintain your resolve and to keep your thought processes focused on your goals. A hypnotherapy DVD programme for home-use, can really help.
Self-help is the only way to permanently stop anxiety and confidence-related problems - only you can change the way you think and act - no one can get inside you and do it for you. (Guidance and support can help, but even with this, you still have to do it yourself).
Social anxiety disorder, responds very positively to hypnotherapy techniques and the treatment of social anxiety using hypnotherapy, has been proven to produce long-lasting, permanent relief. This treatment provides the methods, techniques, and strategies that come together to lessen the anxiety, to give control back to you and make the world a much more enjoyable place.
If you feel that life isn't all it could be, what do you intend to do about it?
Do you want to overcome the obstacles that you know are standing in your way? Will you finally realise your potential and get more from life, relationships and your career?
You have it within yourself to succeed. You will achieve success if you make sure that you put an effective support system into place as soon as possible.
What's stopping you from making it happen?
So, don't wait to make any New Year resolutions at midnight on the 31st of December, decide to start making the changes that you want to make in your life, RIGHT NOW!
Do something different this time.
About The Author
Ron Goodswen, partner at Imagine Me Media - the Hypnotherapy DVD company. Roderick Piggott - Hypnotherapist with over 20 years of experience. http://www.imaginememedia.com.