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Excuse Me...Your Life Is Waiting

By Doreen Banszak

What if one day you were minding your own business

when someone tapped you on the shoulder and said,

"Excuse me, your life is waiting. It's right over

there and in it you have all that you ever desired.

You have financial freedom, the job of your dreams

or the business you always wanted. All of your

relationships are strong, loving and beneficial.

You are strong, sure of yourself and happier than

you've ever dared to imagine."

You might say, "Show me the way!" and the person

would, but of course there is a price...

You would need to leave behind all of your fears,

jealousies, thoughts of separateness, anxieties,

anger, frustrations, limiting beliefs. Could you

do it? Could you shed all of these and walk toward

what you say you REALLY want?

Now, if you are reading this article, clearly you

are the one doing the tapping and deep down you know

exactly what you need to do to get from here to there.

So why aren't you doing it? Start by asking yourself

how you are feeling. That's right, how are you


All the feelings in the world roll up to just two, you

either feel good or you feel bad. There really is no

in between because the absence of good is bad and

the absence of bad is good.

When was the last time you came up with a solution to

a problem when you were feeling scared or frustrated?

When you are feeling these things your thoughts are

locked on the fear, not the potential solution.

So how can you expect to create the life you want if

you are constantly having thoughts that serve and

maintain your fears?

There are 4 steps you can follow that will break you out

of the fear and into the possibility of having the

life experience you really want.

Step One

Know What You Don't Want

Part of the reason we are fearful is because we are not

clear on what it is that we really want. Crazy as it

sounds, for a lot of us, it is much easier to come up

with what we don't want than what we do want. Take a few

minutes and jot down, in list format, what you really

don't want.

Step Two

Know What You Do Want

Take your don't wants and simply flip them into do wants.

For example, "I don't want to travel so much for work"

becomes "I only want to travel once a month for work."

As you go through your list, notice how you are starting

to feel better and be more hopeful.

Step Three

Get Into the "Feeling" Place of Your Want

Now that you have started to shift your attention away

from what you don't want onto what you do want, you can't

help but feel better. Now you want to take that feeling

and expand it. Phrase your do want in the present, as though

you already have it...

"I am traveling once a month for work now. I love having

this extra time to spend with my family. I am much more

involved in my kid's lives and it feels good to know that I am

contributing more around the house. My customers are even

more satisfied because now I meet with them weekly by phone

in addition to my monthly visit. I am very pleased with these

results and we still get miles for our trips to Disney World!"

Step Four

Allow It To Happen

The first thing we do, when we get clear on what it is we

really want, is try to make it happen as soon as possible.

This step is all about allowing, not forcing your desire

to happen. You have already started doing this by taking

your attention off of what you don't want which already

has started to allow thoughts and ideas on how to make it


When you force, you are in fear mode and remember what we said,

not living in fear is part of the price you pay for having

what you want. The best indication that you are headed

in the right direction is again how you feel. If it feels

good, go for it! If it feels bad, avoid it!

So there you have it, the key to having what you want

in life. Are you ready to use it?

About The Author

Doreen Banaszak is a coach, teacher and the author of the

upcoming book, "Excuse Me, Your Life Is RIGHT Now", the

follow-up to Lynn Grabhorn's New York Times Best Seller,

"Excuse Me, Your Life Is Waiting". Register for Doreen's

free mini-course, "4 Steps to Your Next Personal and

Professional Breakthrough" at


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