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Counterfeit Love

By Joyce C. Lock

Some form of the word "love exists in scripture 543 times and is, conceivably, one of the most abused, excused, and misused words in modern lingo, today.

I love your style. I just loved that show. I love the way you fix your hair! I love ice cream. Oh, I love what you've done with this room! I love you in that dress. I love it when you make me laugh.

I LOVE YOU... unless I get hurt... just don't ask me to help... only when my needs come first... though, not if it means listening to you... barring when I can take credit... when it's convenient... if you love me... as long as you do what I say... but not your children... unless you get in my way... until I think of some good jokes at your expense... except you put on a few pounds... omitting when friends are around... whenever it benefits me.

Let's make love. If you love me, you'll do it. Never mind that I'm sleeping with someone else, it's you I love. You're just stupid. You know I love you.

I love you, but I won't forgive you. I'm sorry for hurting you, again, but you know I love you. I told you once that I love you. That ought to be enough. What do I have to say to make you believe me? I (bleep, bleep) love you, all right? If I say I love you, then I love you. I can see others and still love you. When you measure up to my expectations, then, I'll love you.

Some speak most eloquent words of love. Fewer show it in their lives. But, whatever they speak, actions speak even louder.

Surely, God must prefer to disassociate from situations wherein people misuse words that describe His character. And, wherever He isn't, it isn't love.

It is impossible to love until we (know God and) begin to love others as He loves us, because God is love and it's His Spirit that loves through us (1 John 4:8, 12b-13). Anything less is counterfeit.

by Joyce C. Lock
This writing may be used in its entirety, with credits in tact,
for non-profit ministering purposes.

About the Author

Joyce C. Lock is a published author, poet, and columnist. In addition, she founded and maintains the e-mail ministries "Heavenly Inspirations" and "Share a Smile" Joyce's writings encourage us in our relationship with God and each other.


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