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Holidays and Diets: Can They Get Along With Each Other?

By David Longo

Santa Claus cookies, gingerbread men, fruit cakes, candy canes,... need we go further?

Hey, it's the holidays. We don't know about you, but some of us here have started our

new diets ever so proudly, and...whoooops! The holidays are upon us! Ouch! Now what

do we do?? What comes to so many people's minds who are on the diet train?

"The holidays are going to be a total struggle because, although my favorite foods will be

featured attractions on so many tables, it will be others indulging and not me."


"It's the holidays! Why bother? The diet can start when the new year makes its debut."

Those who can adapt with a mindset that exists somewhere in between those two extremes

are in the minority - yet it's those few individuals who get through the holidays just fine and

still lose weight or, at the very least, don't gain more than a pound or two.

One thing we want to make clear: yes, it's the holidays. It's a festive time of year - and it's

supposed to be. So let's decide right here and now that this does NOT have to be an

"all or nothing" situation for you. As a matter of fact, you can use this holiday season as

a vehicle to prove to yourself, once and for all, that "failing" with your eating plan is not

an option. Yes, you can do this!

And it doesn't have to be difficult...

One thing that needs to be acknowledged is that, for most who are on a diet of some kind, the

threat (yes, that's what it feels like) of deprivation sets in. You have to face the truth in this. You

know, that little voice that screams within you, "Oh no! I'm in for an uphill battle - I just know

I'm going to want all those foods I see on the table, and I certainly do not want to be bothered with

having to say to myself, "No, you can't have that!" We all have that little retaliator within us that answers

back, "Oh no??! I'll show you - don't tell me what I can't eat...I'm going to enjoy myself and no diet is

going to ruin it for me!" And, of course, the other part of you says, "Bad! You're going to get fat!"

Sound familiar?

It's okay... relax.

Instead of approaching this holiday season with this kind of mindset, let's do it differently this year.

You know it is possible to enjoy yourself and still enjoy results, too. It's not necessary to approach

the holidays in a state of panic. Rather than thinking, "what am I cheating myself out of?" think "let's

see, it's the holidays...I'm going to be tempted with lots of goodies. The truth is that I have a choice

in how I go about this. If I'm realistic about this whole thing, chances are pretty darn good that I'm

going to indulge. But this doesn't mean I have to give up my concept of eating healthy."

You see, if you're involved with an eating plan that has "forbidden" you to have that chocolate brownie,

and you know you're going to have a brownie (or 3) during the festivities, then face the situation right

now by preparing for it. What some people will do is get anxious about it all...and then when the day

comes, they eat that brownie and then say, "Oh well... I did it now - it's over! I might as well go all the

way and pig out!"

Resolve not to do it that way this time. You see, if you resist to the point of feeling cheated and wanting

to retaliate, you won't be helping yourself. It is not supposed to be a game where "sometimes you're good

and sometimes you're bad." Get rid of the "Good VS Bad" mindset right now. Imperfection is okay.

1) Maintain an awareness of the portions you'll be eating.

Instead of saying "I can only have this one," devote your energy to really savoring it - perhaps eating that cookie 3 to 5 times slower than you normally would. "More chews" will lead to more satisfaction. Instead of looking at that butterball cookie in that

rally attractive plate and thinking "I shouldn't," instead think (before picking it up) "how long can I make that

last once it's in my hand?" You see? You are creating a POSITIVE - not avoiding a NEGATIVE.

2) Moderate Exercise

Take a walk when you normally wouldn't. You don't have to go crazy with exercise - just do one extra thing a day.

3) More Healthier Choices

When you have a choice between that piece of cake and a fruit, instead of thinking, "I really should eat the apple,"

shift from a "feeling deprived" mindset to one that works better for you. Perhaps think, "It's okay if I opt for the cake.

The fruit is healthier. Maybe half (or quarter) a regular piece of cake and then the fruit!" This works!

4) Understand that you're not necessarily going to live up to your expectations of yourself.

THIS IS THE KEY>>>>> Don't put yourself down for it! <<<<Got that? Once again: Don't put yourself down for it! Instead pat yourself

on the back for the little efforts you have made! Reward yourself! How? With an extra cookie? Maybe!

Are you getting the picture? "All or Nothing" thinking does not work, so don't let it be your goal. Even when you

find that you are indulging more than you think you probably should, practice accepting yourself completely,

knowing that you are on a journey of discovery about yourself. Don't "slap" yourself or punish yourself in any

way for living short of perfection - it just doesn't make sense.

Practice thinking this way beginning now - anticipate those holiday meals. Mentally rehearse accepting yourself

wholeheartedly as you see yourself in the scenario. This kind of visualization/rehearsing is very valuable.

Above everything: accept who you are and don't punish your actions. Instead, focus on what you are doing right.

Oh, and one more thing... (and this is an order)

Enjoy the holidays!

About The Author

David Longo writes for which is a popular resource for learning about weight loss, nutrition and fitness. People especially tune into to discover the best weight loss plan for their specific needs.


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