How Much Time Do You Have?
Imagine there is a bank that each day credits our account with $86,400. It carries over no balance from day to day. Every evening when we go to bed it deletes what we didn't use during the day. What would we do? We - d use every bit of it every day! Every one of us has such a bank. It's the Bank of Time. Every morning it credits our account with 86,400 seconds. Every night when we go to bed it writes off, as lost, whatever of this time we have failed to use to good purpose. It doesn't carry over a balance. It doesn't allow us any overdrafts. Each day it opens a new account for us. Each night it burns the remains of our day. If we fail to use the day's deposit it's our loss. There's no going back. There is no drawing against tomorrow. We must live for today, in the present, on today's deposits. We must invest it so we get the most from it. The clock is running. We must make the most of today. We have to take responsibility for this account now.
Part of each day's time expense is taking care of our children. When one of these children is diabetic that expense increases. While we are spending this valuable time we need the best return on our investment that we can get. We should spend some of this time teaching. We need to teach our children that diabetes is not who they are. It is only a bend in life's journey for them. We need to teach them to not waste time being ashamed of their needle marks. Not to waste time feeling bad because of their food requirements, or their dependence on insulin. We need to understand that diabetes is a lesson in character for all of us. We should use our time to study this lesson and learn it well as we lead our children on with their lives. We shouldn't be overly discouraged by set backs. Set backs allow us to review the lesson. We need to use some of our precious time to understand that some of the lessons include the humility we must learn that allows us to help and joyfully serve others. We should understand that through the time spent in our struggles with daily diabetes management we also learn of love, strength, and courage in amounts we never knew we possessed. We can be grateful for the time that has allowed us to meet the wonderful people we never would have otherwise met who care for and taught us to care for our child. We have been given time to offer advice and comfort to those just beginning to learn this lesson.
We should use our time to be with our other children, our spouses, and families. Since each moment is unique and precious we shouldn't waste too many of them on things that aren't productive. Too much time feeling angry, distraught, or guilty, or any of the many other natural emotions that come with the diagnosis of diabetes are not profitable uses of our time. It's true that a portion of our time expense must be paid to these emotions. A certain amount time, well spent on these emotions, speeds us towards acceptance and reduction of the need to spend unnecessary time on them. When we get some time with our spouses we sometimes waste some of it arguing to win instead of arguing to resolve. Time spent in bitterness or resentment is time passed that we will never get back. Anger and unhappiness with our children is not a good use of our time. We can better use that time setting up guidelines for them and teaching them the responsibility of following those guidelines.
86,400 seconds seems like a long time until you've wasted some of those seconds too often. Unfortunately, many times it's not until we look back that we realize our error. A very close friend of mine talks about two slogans from AA, 'One Day At A Time', and 'Time Takes Time'. We need to place the proper value on each day as well as not try to rush the time that some aspects of our lessons take. We need to place a premium on the time in our account. Time passes quickly. Before we know it our children will have grown up, and we will have grown old. Our accounts are turned over much faster than we often realize. We need to spend the time in our account wisely.
About the Author
Russell Turner is the father of a 10 year old diabetic daughter. After she was diagnosed he soon discovered he could find all sorts of medical information on the internet. What he couldn't find was how to prepare his child and family for living with this disease. He started his own website for parents of newly diagnosed diabetic children http://www.mychildhasdiabetes.com