How to Have Massive Success in Adult Dating and Fulfill your Wildest Fantasies (and Stay Safe)
Follow These Essential Tips to Ensure You Get the Best out of Your Adult Dating Experience
Fulfilling your wildest fantasies, fetishes and sexual desires has become easier than ever since the invention of adult dating online. It has become explosively popular over the past few years resulting in millions of members world wide. You can find an adult site that caters for almost every country of the world from Albania to China and even Gabon! There is a huge online community of people out there who you are free to share and explore your wildest fantasies with.
You can browse through adult photo galleries of men and women who are genuinely looking to fulfill their sensual desires with other consenting adults. Everything from Straight sex, gay sex, threesomes, swingers parties, fetishes, a naughty chat online and just about everything else you can think of (and some things you've never heard of!).
Just looking through these sites is very steamy and lots of fun. The sites are very user friendly and it's free to browse. Many of the sites have lots of fun extra features like video chat rooms with sizzling video clips, 24hr live webcams and details of hot adult and swingers parties and events in your area.
Getting Started in Adult Dating Online So where do you start out in the adult dating scene? Well there are many adult dating websites that have free trials with no credit card or payment required to register.
Once you've found the site that interests you most, take advantage of the free trial and get your profile up to start having fun. It's that simple! With many sites, before you can contact other members you will usually have to pay something but that is where the fun begins!
Before you decide to jump into the world of adult dating, you should have a healthy self-image and a sense of self-liberation and confidence. The adult dating sites contain plenty of mature material, pictures and contents for individuals seeking sexual encounters of all kind so be prepared!
You must start off knowing what you want. You have to know what you're comfortable with and what you are not right from the outset. Do you just want a simple discreet encounter? Do you want a swinger's party? Is it a specific kind of encounter that you want? Are you curious about it all? Be clear in your own head what you want and don't let other people persuade you into anything you're not comfortable with. Stick to your guns and you'll have a great time.
Essential Tips for Success on Adult Dating Sites
Create a unique and descriptive username. Many people skip through this bit giving it no importance at all but your user-name is the first hint at what kind of person you are and what kind of encounter you want have. It needs to be original, memorable, and fun. It doesn't have to always be sexual but then again there is nothing wrong with a little tease. Be positive and go ahead and flatter yourself and see if you can incorporate in your username something about your great qualities.
Write a compelling headline. Along with your picture and your username, this is what people view when browsing adult dating sites and it's your most powerful chance to entice a person and get them to open your full profile and find out more about you. Your headline should compel people to read on and find out more. Don't be shy about being there and write '- I'm new to this sort of thing' 'and don't write boring or uninteresting information like 'My name's Jan, I'm 40 and am looking for fun in Sydney' This isn't enticing. It's boring and will most likely be overlooked. This headline is your sales pitch to get them to open your profile so make it intriguing if you can. Remember 'The purpose of the headline just to tempt people to read more. That is its only purpose. Some good ones I have seen are
- Open my profile and find out why my the last people I had a threesome with keep calling me back for more -
And my other favorite - .'Find out the five reasons why you'll want to play doctors and nurses with me!' Do you get the picture? They both make you intrigued to read on and find out what this person is all about. Another great thing to do is to browse through these websites and check out what other people are writing for their headlines. This will give you some ideas of what works and what doesn't.
Creating your description of yourself
You really have to approach writing this as if you were writing a resume or a marketing piece. It's a sales pitch to a person who can fulfill your wildest fantasies. Great ads are the ones that grab eyeballs and push people into action. A great advertisement should be a like a personalized enticing invitation asking others to get in touch right away. Stand out by being creative in your personal profile. Instead of doing the regular age and vital stats thingy, use personalized exiting copy telling people why they should want to engage with you. Don't be afraid to tell all the great things about you. You're aloud to flatter yourself. Confidence is one of the sexiest traits you can portray in your writing. That being said, keep the next point in mind -
Make sure you resist the urge to embellish the truth too much when writing your online profile. Don't try to entice somebody by lying about how you look or what kinds of things you're into. It will only come back to bite you on the bum later (possibly literally!) Just keep it real. The last thing you want is to have to worry about all the fibs you told when you're on the 'dates' you've scored. This is a trap many people fall into. Don't let it happen to you.
You Get Out What You Put in
Like anything in life, you will get much more out of adult dating if you put a bit of effort into it. Remember that online 'dating' is designed to help get what you are looking for but without your input it would be like sitting in the toilets at a party! Send out lots of emails, chat to lots of people. You don't have to just pick one and wait to see what eventuates. Respond quickly to other peoples emails and you will get better results.
Playing it Safe 'Tips for Staying Safe when Adult Dating
Keep Your Personal Details Private
It is important that you remain anonymous in your early online communications with a person. Don't give out your real email address, last name, phone number, address or place of work during your correspondence. If a person places pressure on you to give this information do not give it out. If they are persistent or pesky stop all communications with them. It's best not to give out this information at all unless you have met with them (preferably more than once) and are satisfied that it is safe to do so.
If possible check with your ISP and check that your online profile does not give out more personal information than you are comfortable with.
You can keep your email address anonymous with email redirection services like Bigfoot or you can also just sign up for a separate email account to your main one and just use that exclusively for adult dating and other things you wish to remain anonymous for (obviously don't use you real name in the email address). Also be careful that any email signatures that you have do not give out personal details like your place of work, phone number, address or full name.
Trust your Intuition
99% of people on line have the best of intentions but in order to keep that lousy 1% at bay make sure you follow these tips. If your online correspondent doesn't answer questions directly, lies, deliberately misleads you or just gives off a bad vibe, trust your better instincts and get rid of them fast. Better to find someone you can feel comfortable with
Meeting in Person
Don't allow yourself to be pressured into meeting a person before you ready. Make sure you do not agree to anything before you meet them in person. The first meeting should be like a bit like a date in that you still have room to make your mind up on whether you'd like to go ahead with any adult activity with the person your meeting.
Make sure you meet in a public place the first time and if you like you can even organize for your friend to be nearby to keep an eye on you. Your online buddy will understand and accommodate your wishes if they are honest about their intentions towards you. If during the date, you decide to go somewhere else, use your own transport and try to stay in public places until you feel you know the person well enough. Going to your own home or theirs is not ideal. If you'd like to go somewhere more private it is best to go to a hotel (and ideally one that you make the reservation for)
It's important to let a friend know where you are going, with whom, and arrange to call them after your date. If you travel to meet your on-line friend, make your own hotel and car reservations and don't give out private information about yourself while on your date (place of work, phone numbers etc). Get your own transport to and from the date even if you're offered a lift.
Getting out of Trouble If you start feeling uncomfortable about your date, politely from excuse yourself from the situation. Excuse yourself and leave by the back door if necessary. Do not hesitate to ask for help from persons nearby, call your family, friends or the police if you feel the situation warrants. Trust your judgment and don't be afraid of potential embarrassment. Better to be embarrassed than physically hurt or intimidated.
About the author:
Mellissa O - Brien is a writer who has become an expert in online dating and written over 200 articles on the topic including independent reviews of top Australian dating sites plus essential tips and advice for singles. Check out www.aussie-dating.com