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Dating and Seduction: How to Turn the Tables on the Women You're Seeing

Let me ask you a question. It's ok. You don't have to answer aloud.

Have you ever experienced any of the following things with a woman?

-Trying to say the right things to "win her over"?

-Attempting to prove that you were her "ideal man"?

-A cautious feeling that any moment you might do something that would turn her off?

-Wondering at all if she's interested?

If you're like 99.99% of all men in the dating scene, you've probably answered yes.

Today I'm going to ouline a simple solution to these problems that you will be able to start using right away.

It's called screening.

The most relevant definition to screening for our purposes is:

Screen v. To examine (a job applicant, for example) systematically in order to determine suitability.

When you are with a woman, and it feels as though she os "systematially examining you in order to determine suitablility", (Jeez, that's a mouthful) she's screening you.

The solution you ask?


Screen her first.

That's right. Start screening her first, and it will be very difficult for her to screen you since she'll be too busy trying to win YOU over.


Before you can examine her for suitability, you first have to know what you are looking for.

Here's an exercise. Get out a piece of paper and write down the top 3 characteristics you look for in a woman.

By the way, don't write down things that you can tell by looking at her. I know there's a few guys out there that are about to write "hot" as their first characteristic.

Basically, since you can tell if she's hot based on your first glance, there's no need to screen for it.

I'll do the exercise with you.

I wrote down:




Now, what you'll want to do is design a few questions to indirectly determine if she has those qualities or not.

This is easy.

For example, for "independent", I might say something like:

"You know, I really like women who lead exciting lives of their own. Are you the type of person who would rather create something completely unique and her own or would you rather be part of a team?"

It's subtle, interesting, get's right to the point, and also let's her know you have high expectations.

Here's another hint. Most women when they are interested in a guy, will work like the devil to pass their screens.

Don't forget to reward her when she passes your screens! This will make her feel good about pleasing you and motivate her to do more of that in the future!

About the author:

Vincent DiCarlo is a world famous dating coach. His experience comes from years of training pickup artists in underground seduction lairs across the East Coast. He currently runs theApproach: The Science of Social Chemistry for the Modern Gentleman, with his partner Sebastian Drake.

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