Before you can step out of the rush
and into your own life, you must first see that while anxious, hurried
feelings often lend a temporary sense of self-importance, these same
racing emotions actually rob you of the power you need to be
self-commanding. A brief investigation will confirm this finding.
begins with being able to choose your own direction in life. And
whether you're caught in the raging current of a white-water river, or
being swept along by a flood of invisible thoughts and feelings, one
fact remains: Like it or not, you're going where that current goes. You
have no real choices as long as you're under its influence. That's why
learning to step out of the rush is the same as learning how to step
into your own life.
Allow the exercise described below to show
you that your real nature never feels the need to rush any more than an
eagle would try to swim across a lake to get to the other side.
the challenge. Rushing thoughts and anxious feelings are invisible to
you because each time they begin to race, you start to run with them.
And after so many years of being carried along in this psychic
slipstream, you've come to believe that either you are these surging
inner currents, or that their power is yours. Neither case is true. You
are not these waves of thought any more than a cresting tide is the
Now here's the solution in exercise form that will help you to slow down your life.
this very moment, intentionally separate yourself from any rushing
inner condition by voluntarily stepping out of it. How can this be
done? Purposefully slow yourself down by acting to consciously reduce
your usual speed. Here are several suggested ways to guarantee a good
1. At fifty percent your normal gait, walk over to get your cup of coffee.
2. Try reaching for the phone, your glass of water or your pen at seventy-five percent your normal speed.
3. Drive the speed limit (at all times) but especially when late for an appointment.
practice I find particularly profitable, at home and in business, is to
always pause a few seconds before I answer someone's question. This
special conscious pause for self-awakening is invaluable because, as
the old saying goes, "Only fools rush in!" Whatever the occasion may
be, choose the time and place to slow down, and then practice stepping
out of the rush.
Here's the secret behind how this unique
exercise delivers new self-command. Slowing down helps you become aware
of yourself in a new and higher way by creating contrast between your
usual speed through life and your now selectively slower one.
enhanced self-awareness empowers you to step out of the rush of your
own surging thoughts and feelings by making you conscious of their
flooding presence within you as being something that doesn't belong to
you. Once this is clear, then you can choose your own direction in
life. Step out of the rush by slowing down. Do it Now.
Excerpted from Design Your Destiny
by Guy Finley, Llewellyn Publications.Guy
is the best-selling author of The Secret of Letting Go, The
Essential Laws of Fearless Living
, and 35 other works that have sold
over a million copies in 18 languages worldwide. His work has been
featured on hundreds of radio and TV networks including NBC, CBS, ABC,
CNN, NPR, and PBS. Guy has spent the last 30 years showing individuals
the authentic path to a higher life filled with happiness, success, and
true love. Finley lives and teaches in Merlin, Oregon where he is
Director of non-profit Life of Learning Foundation.Visit the website