It was a day that will forever be etched into my being. My husband was out of town for a week visiting his mother, just after his father had passed away, and I was parenting my extraordinary children solo. After five days of refereeing high drama, guiding right choices, soothing emotions, loving unconditionally and relaxing with righteous indignation -- I was exhausted.     

Feeling both physically and emotionally drained one evening, I put my children to bed and sat down to meditate and pray. As I melted into the silence I was surrounded by a blissful connection with the creator. In my mind I asked God what I needed to learn in order to be a more effective parent. Within moments God's wisdom poured through my soul. As I melted into to the divine communion, several keys were revealed to my heart. I was guided to look deeply into my children's eyes when I become frustrated and remember how small they really are, how they make me feel when they hug me and how they melt my heart with love.     

I felt my burdens being lifted as more insights were revealed. I was guided to take a deep breath when I lose my patience, and to encourage my children to do the same. I was directed to support them in making right choices, but to remember that their minds need to ask questions and their souls need to make mistakes. I was shown that we were brought together to help each other grow and that in this lifetime my children had lessons to learn. And so did I.     

Tears began to flow as God's wisdom poured forth. I was told that when the world seemed overwhelming, to pray together with my children and share how fully God loves each of them. I was told to be an example of the healing power of kindness, and to teach that each of them can make a difference in the world.     

The joyous lessons became more profound as God whispered, "When you are with your children be fully present, remember to laugh with them, cry with them and celebrate life with them." But perhaps the wisdom that touched my heart the deepest was that my children are the biggest blessing God has ever bestowed upon me.     

I felt my life force re-ignite and I was now able to see the beauty and the innocence in my children. I was able to feel how deeply I am connected to their souls. With this reverent knowing in my heart, I walked into my children's room. As they lay sleeping, I kissed each one and thanked God for the wisdom that would help me be a better parent and for the blessing of these beautiful little angels.     

How different would our families be if God's wisdom guided all our parenting choices? Take a deep breathe and ask God what it is you need to learn to parent more effectively. As this guidance fills your heart you can then parent from a place of strength and understanding, helping your children reach their highest potential. May you and your children be showered with peace, health, joy -- and most of all love.     

Copyright © 2006 Debbie Milam
Debbie Milam is the author of Stop Fighting and Start Connecting. An occupational therapist and life coach whose work has been featured in over 300 media outlets including The Miami Herald, Elle, Ladies Home Journal, PBS and The Hallmark Channel. Visit her website for more books and resources to help you be a create a life of peace, joy, and success for you and your children. Sign-up for her newsletter at BestYouCanBe.org and receive your special report 'Creating Peace Within Yourself and Your Family.'

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