Have you ever had something taken away from you only to realize how much you appreciated it after it was gone? I ask this question every time I start one of my speeches and seminars on appreciation. As I pause and wait for people to respond, many hands go up.
Most of us have taken someone or something for granted. We only truly realized how much that person or situation meant to us after the fact. For example, at the age of 23 my professional baseball career ended abruptly when I blew out my pitching arm. I was in my third season in the minor leagues with the Kansas City Royals, and just like that my childhood dream was over.
I realized looking back on my 18 years in competitive baseball that I had only one major regret. I pushed myself so hard that I'd forgotten to enjoy the game. I was so focused on "making it" and on overcoming my weaknesses, I had not taken much time to appreciate what I was doing along the way.
We often waste way too much of our time and energy focusing on what we don't like, what we're worried about, or what we think needs to be fixed, changed, or enhanced. We live in a culture obsessed with "bad stuff." Just turn on the news, listen to the conversations and negative attitudes of the people around you, or pay attention to the thoughts in your own head.
The Power of Appreciation in Your Life
What if we stopped this negative obsession and started paying attention to what and whom we appreciate, right now? Imagine how this simple but profound shift in focus could transform our lives, our families, our relationships, our careers, our work groups, and more.
Our life experiences are functions of what we pay attention to. Each and every moment we have a choice to where we place our attention.
I am not advocating that we deny, avoid, or run from the challenges, issues, or even the pain in our lives or around us. It is important that we are able to confront, face, and deal with these difficulties. However, we don't have to obsess about the bad stuff and let it run our lives. We each can consciously choose to focus on the good stuff in our lives, with others, and most importantly towards ourselves.
There are great things happening in your life and around you all the time. You interact with amazing people each and every day. But, this is only "true" if you choose to recognize it, acknowledge it, and live it through your thoughts, words, and actions.
Here are my top 5 principles to living a life filled with appreciation and enjoyment:
- Be Grateful
Focus on the many blessings in your life and all that you have to be thankful for.
- Choose Positive Thoughts and Feelings
Make a conscious decision to transform your negative thoughts and feelings into ones that empower you.
- Use Positive Words
Pay attention to the words you use with others, about things, and in speaking about yourself. Speak with the most positive words possible. Our words have the power to create, not just describe
- Acknowledge Others
Focus on what you appreciate about the people around you and let them know. Be genuine and let others know the positive impact they have on you and your life.
- Appreciate Yourself
Celebrate who you are, what you do, and the many gifts and talents you have. Self-appreciation is not arrogance. It's an awareness of your own power and it's the key to self-confidence, success, and fulfillment.
There's a saying, "argue for your limitations and they're yours." Instead of that, what if we celebrated the good stuff around us, in others, and in ourselves? When we focus on this good stuff, our world transforms and we are able to see and experience the great fullness of our lives.
We don't have to wait until everything is handled. We don't have to wait until we get it all perfect. And, we don't have to wait for people to do things exactly as we want them to. We can start appreciating life, others, and ourselves exactly as we are, right now. Don't wait 'til it's too late!
Personal growth expert Mike Robbins empowers individuals, organizations and Fortune 500 companies to appreciate themselves and each other - thus leading to greater success, improved relationships, and increased fulfillment. Experience the positive impact of appreciation on yourself and those around you with this free sneak preview of Mike's new book: Focus on the Good Stuff.
